212 – Why you should stop saying “blessed”

Hey, Mama. This is Mama’s Daily Dose, the short, actionable podcast for mamas who want more. I’m Meghan Q Barrett of allyoumama.com. #blessed. Yesterday, we talked about your gifts, like what gifts were you blessed with. And while we are all blessed with gifts, I feel like the word blessed is being overused. And it is taking away from the hard work that goes in to achievement, and Mama’s Daily Dose is… how the overuse of “blessed” discounts hard work. Let’s get moving before we get interrupted.

We are all blessed with certain gifts and talents and knowledge. You know, some people are born and they are natural athletes. Some people are born and they’re super duper smart. But regardless of what you are “blessed” with, you’re not going to get very far if you don’t work hard, and utilize those things that you have been given those things that you have been blessed with.

And I feel like the word blessed is just so overused in our culture now, like just search, #blessed and see how many things come up on Instagram, and Facebook and Twitter and all of the social media, like everything is #blessed. That’s something positive. But what I feel it’s really doing is discounting the hard work that is involved.

When there’s some big athlete, some football star, basketball star, and they say, “Oh, I’m just, I’m just so blessed. That’s how I got here is because I’m so blessed.” Well, no, that’s not what got you there. There’s plenty of people that are great at football and great at basketball, but they didn’t put in the work that you did. And just throwing it up to being “blessed” discounts all the hard work that you put in. And not only that, it’s showing people, especially kids, that you have to be blessed with something to get somewhere. When really, it’s the hard work that’s going to get you those achievements.

In the book “Mindset” by Carol Dweck, which is great for all parents or anybody involved with children to read. She talks about not saying, “Oh, you did so well, because you’re so smart.” It’s praising the hard work in it. Because what happens is, when these children think that they’re smart, when they come across something that doesn’t come easy to them, then they don’t feel smart, and they just don’t feel like they can they can do it. Whereas if you say, “hey, you did awesome on that, you worked so hard.” They’re like okay, I achieved this because I worked really hard on this, I put the effort into it. And that’s what’s gonna get you far in life is putting the work in there, utilizing what you are blessed with, but not relying on just straight up being “blessed” with something.

Mama, your action today is to be grateful for what you have been blessed with, to be grateful for what you already have. But at the same time, give yourself credit for it. Pat yourself on the back. Look at those things that you are good at. And how did you work to be good at those things? And if you don’t already give me a follow on Instagram @MeghanQBarrett and have a great day free of mama guilt because you deserve it.

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