57 – Shame lives in the darkness

Hey Mama. This is Mama’s Daily Dose. I’m Meghan Q Barrett of allyoumama.com. Mama’s Daily Dose is… shame lives in the darkness. Let’s get moving, before we get interrupted.

Have you ever felt ashamed of something or just felt really bad about something, so you kept it to yourself, and you didn’t tell anyone. And it just it festered, and it got worse and worse? And that’s because shame lives in the darkness. So if you keep it to yourself, and you keep it locked away, it’s just going to keep growing. As soon as you bring it to the light, and you share it with somebody, anybody. It’s like this huge weight is lifted off of you, because it’s come to light. 

At this time, last year, I was in a really bad place, with my postpartum anxiety, and most likely depression, as well. And I kept it to myself, there were a few people that knew, obviously, my husband knew and a few close friends, but I didn’t really talk about it at all. If you follow me on social media at all, you know that I am very open, how I shared my experience with one of those menstrual cups. But for some reason, I didn’t feel like I could share this. And because of that, I felt really alone. And I felt like it was this big weight on me. And it was up to me. And that just made my situation even worse than it was. And it took me almost 10 months to really be open about it and tell people about it. And as soon as I did, my life started changing, I felt so much lighter and I felt like it no longer defined who I was. That I could change it that I could make a difference. So if you are holding on to something, and it is just making you feel crappy, holding on to it is just going to make you feel even crappier – you need to bring it to light. You need to tell people, tell someone that you trust, tell a stranger, but it just needs to be brought to light and I guarantee you, you will feel so much lighter. And you’ll know that there is light at the end of the tunnel, that it’s not the end. That’s not who you are.

If you aren’t sure where you want to go, to share what you’ve been hiding. Think about Selfish Mamas Club. This is the most supportive group of mamas that you will find that are just trying to be better for themselves. And if that isn’t for you, find a therapist. Therapy is what we all need. Honestly, the world would be a better place if everyone went to therapy and just had someone to talk to that wasn’t going to judge them. It’s just somebody that is there to listen. And hey, have a great day free of mama guilt because you deserve it.

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