Hey, Mama. This is Mama’s Daily Dose. I’m Meghan Q Barrett of allyoumama.com. Mama’s Daily Dose is… Build your village. Let’s get moving, before we get interrupted.
You don’t have to go through your motherhood journey alone. And you shouldn’t. But it is your responsibility to build your village so that you get that support. No mom out there should ever feel isolated in their motherhood journey. And it can be super difficult at times. But you also have to take the responsibility to build that village for yourself, especially if you don’t have that family or support system nearby. But your village doesn’t have to be family. It doesn’t even have to be all moms, it is great to have that group of mom friends and having people that know what you’re going through and can really empathize with that and support you. But a lot of times your mom friends are in the thick of it, just like you. So it’s really difficult to ask them for help when you might need help, because you know, that they’re going through so much. And even though they may want to help you, they may not have the time or energy to do so. So looking outside of just your mom friends to create the village is key too. So some other ways that you can look at, is some neighbors. Are there neighbors nearby that you could bring into your village, especially those neighbors that may be at different stages in their mothering journey. So maybe they have older children, or they have adult children or they’re grandmothers. Because especially those that don’t have young children love hanging out with young children more. And it goes the same for those that are before mothering or parenting age, it can be either gender, that you know, maybe there’s a teenager or a young 20 something in your neighborhood or, from some social circle or church that you can have and bring them into your village.
Also, any kind of interest groups that you have, maybe it’s a workout group or a reading group, a book club, church group volunteers, a crafting group, I don’t know there’s lots of different areas that you can look for people to build your village. But I implore you to look outside of just moms that have children the same age as you because as I said, they’re in the same boat that you are, so sometimes it is difficult for them to offer that support. And if you look especially at people like mothers who have older children, they have a lot of knowledge that they can impart on you as well. And they can certainly empathize with everything that you’re going through, because they’ve been there before. But just know that you do have to put yourself out there a little bit. It is a little bit like dating, which I’m going to go into a bit on Friday, when I talk about a story of basically dating my mom friend. So go out there and find someone that you can bring into your village today.
Get building that village, get that support that you need. And I want to be a part of that support too. And I have a group of amazing mamas that want to as well. All in Selfish Mamas Club. We are taking care of ourselves and focusing on ourselves so we can be the best that we can for us and our kids. Check it out. Allyoumama.com and have a great day free of mama guilt because you deserve it.
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