Hey Mama. This is Mama’s Daily Dose. I’m Meghan Q Barrett of allyoumama.com. Mama’s Daily Dose is… selfish little bitch. Let’s get moving, before we get interrupted.
Way back in episode number two entitled “be selfish,” I dropped a little teaser about my grandma and a story about her and how that got me to kind of change the way that I saw the word selfish. So I think I was about 12 years old, I can see it super vividly, I was out in front of my house and my grandmother had come to visit and she lived on the other coast, I didn’t see her a whole lot to be totally honest, growing up. So I didn’t have a super close relationship with my grandma. But I know she had come out to kind of help my parents out because I had been sick, and they both had to go to work. So she came to help out. And I really don’t know what the conversation was, or anything, but we’re standing outside the house. And I just remember her looking straight at me, and just saying, “You are a selfish little bitch.” And to be fair, probably whatever I was doing, I most likely was being a selfish little B. But our words do matter. And it obviously had some kind of impact on me. I also remember my mom calling me selfish, many, many times. And this is no slight at my mom or my grandma, they were both doing the best that they can, as I’ve talked about in other episodes, at the time, that was the best that they knew how to do. And I’m not blaming them, things happen to us in our childhood that, you know, when we become adults, we have to figure out how we want to deal with it. And for the longest time, I really did feel like I was a selfish person. And I tried so hard to make up for that. It wasn’t like I tried to stop being selfish, but I tried to balance it out with giving so much and giving to other people and really giving to the wrong people for a large portion of my life because I felt subconsciously that’s what I had to do to make up for being a selfish little B. But over time, I have changed my view on the word selfish. And I feel like I have kind of taken back control of that word, selfish. And it isn’t, it doesn’t have a negative connotation to me anymore. Like I think being selfish is a great thing. I think everybody should go out there and be a selfish little B.
Tomorrow I’m going to go a little bit more into detail about taking back the word selfish and what it really means to me now and with starting the Selfish Mamas Club. So if you’re looking to take care of yourself, and you’re out there and you’re feeling super isolated in your mama journey, I know what that feels like. Come join us. We meet every Thursday, you are going to have so much support. We’re going to be there we’re going to celebrate your wins. We’re going to help you achieve whatever it is that you want to achieve, so that you can be the best person and the best mom and then pass that along to your kids and the world just keeps becoming a better place. And that’s what Selfish Mama’s Club is all about. Check it out at allyoumama.com/selfishmamasclub and have a great day free of mama guilt because you deserve it.
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