Hey Mama, Happy Friday Eve. This is Mama’s Daily Dose. I’m Meghan Q Barrett of allyoumama.com. Today is Thursday, and that means it is quote day Mama’s Daily Dose is… a quote from CJ Schneider, in her book, ‘Mothers of the Village,’ “When mothers don’t feel confident about the available allo mothers, they often will end up mothering alone. Which is more taxing, less efficient, and an unnatural way for humans to raise children.” Let’s get moving, before we get interrupted.
The way that we parent and we mother and that our families are set up in modern times now is not the way we were evolutionarily set up to parent, we are meant to parent with family and a village and people around us helping us. But now with technology and the way the world works, many people live far away from family and mothers end up mothering alone.
The way that it’s worked through human history, as well as the way that it still works in many countries is that the children are raised by the village, you know the saying “it takes a village.” That is the way it is meant to be. If you think about it back in hunter-gatherers, the men would go out and hunt, and all of the children would stay with the mothers in a group. So everyone would help out with all the children. And a lot of times, certain moms would take certain ages or even the ones that aren’t moms, the ones that are say, right before mother mothering age, and those that are grandmothers or so on would take the kids as well.
So the moms didn’t feel like they were doing it alone. And I feel like so often now, that is the feelings of moms that they feel so isolated, because we don’t have those villages of support. Many moms out there don’t have somebody that they can call nearby, when they really need some help if there is an emergency, like, Who am I going to call who is going to help me with my children right now? Having that supportive group around you, both physically and emotionally, is so important, not only for the mom, but for the children as well. And I know not everybody is able to make those connections right in their geographic area. And that’s okay because sometimes, as moms, we need to get creative, and find your people and find that support system that you need and that you and your children deserve.
I know what it feels like to feel totally isolated. Even though you may be surrounded by people all day. And I know what it’s like to not feel like you have the support that you really need in order to be your best and be your best for your children. And because of that, I knew I had to do something for other moms something beyond this podcast to create more connection, and more support and all the information Is coming out tomorrow. So you gotta listen to the podcast then. And have a great day free of mama guilt because you deserve it.
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