Hey, Mama. This is Mama’s Daily Dose. I’m Meghan Q Barrett of allyoumama.com. Mama’s Daily Dose is… “Do I want to be a working mom, or a stay at home mom?” Let’s get moving before we get interrupted.
Y’all. So this is a little funny because I had totally forgotten about this essay that I wrote in college. So the first year of university, we had to write an argumentative essay. And my topic was whether I wanted to be a working mom, or a stay at home mom. And I remember growing up, I just always thought that I would be a working mom, because most of the moms that I was surrounded by, were all full time working moms, my mom was a full time working mom, my whole childhood. And I just assumed that would be me. Because as children, we look at what our lives look like. And we just think that that’s the norm. And that’s what it is. So when I got to college, I’m like, okay, like, let’s think about this, what do I really want to do, I don’t have to be the person that my mom was, I can be my own person. And so I wrote this whole argumentative essay. And the funny thing is, is these thoughts that I had at 18 years old, are the same thoughts that ran through my head at 30 – 31 years old, right before I had my first child, and it was like, you know, I want to be a working mom, because I want to do something for myself, like, I really do enjoy making my own money, and having that purpose of a job, of a career.
But I also love staying, the idea of staying at home with my kids that I can make my kids breakfast every morning, I can drop them off at school every morning, and I can pick them up, I will be at all of the sports games, like, I’ll just be that mom that’s there, they can come home from school and all have warm cookies on the table. At least that’s what I thought I would do when I was 19. Now that I have children, that’s just not the kind of mom that I am. But it’s just, it’s funny that it like just everything comes full, full circle in the universe, and that at 19, before I even had the thought of having children, that this was an argument that I had, essentially with myself. And I think that it’s an argument that a lot of moms have with themselves and will continue to have with themselves to and you can go different ways you can be a part time working mom, you can be an entrepreneur, but it’s finding what works for you and your family. And I’ve found that at different points in my life so far, even just almost four years in my son will be four on Thursday, different times, different roles will say have worked for me as a mom.
Thank you so much for tuning in today. And I’m super excited. I’m actually setting up a panel to talk to moms that have been both stay at home moms and full time working moms just to see everyone’s thoughts on it. And the differences – the good, the bad, the awesome the ugly. So stay tuned for that it’ll be coming beginning of September and have a great day free of mama guilt because you deserve it.
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